Gordon Agáta 2008.07.11. 09:01:00

Adrian: How an enemy can serve your goal?

"If we live in a norm that does not know us, if we live with people that are not like us, we don’t receive what we need to be happy. But if we are outside the norm as outcast, than we may end up hating ourselves." Adrian's opinion about the Hungarian LGBT march and about how can we reach the self-respect.


Yes, to be true to your self is to respect yourself, but no one can respect themself, if they do not know who they are, what are the similarities and the differences that bring them together with others or not. I’m always very unhappy to see that the majority of us has no idea why is he what he is, and why is it a value to be different, why is it a value to be gay. We learn respect and self-respect based on the norm we grow up in, the people we grow up with. If we live in a norm that does not know us, if we live with people that are not like us, we don’t receive what we need to be happy. But if we are outside the norm as outcast, than we may end up hating ourselves.

How do we get out of it? (Maybe gay children should be put in the custody of gay parents?)

I was on the gay pride on Saturday, and after, full of emotion I wrote an article on how I have to thank the skinheads(?) for being there and hate-fearing us, that without them we would be just a march of colourful clowns that people point at. But with them we are part of the media, the intellectual discussion, part of politics an law.

It is strange how an enemy can serve your goal.

It is strange how we end up being functionally the absolute minority, the archetype, being alone in one very different family.

But at the same time we as LGBT form the 54% of all population, and our genetic material is as old as sexuality itself, from the first sexual being the ocean worms, to the most evolved primate.

We are there everywhere, in time, continent, probably even planet.

And still just like women who are always in majority (55%), we did not choose to lead, and to rule, to create a norm where we can be the best anyone can be.